It happens pretty often that I plan to go in one direction and end up somewhere radically different. Perhaps, it is in the nature of what I do, commenting on the world around me that provides so many opportunities to derail my plans. However, in this case, I am happy to forgo my intended sarcastic caricature of the holy trinity (politics, pop culture and pro-football), and address something so critical to the fabric of our country, and its social contract that to ignore it would be grossly irresponsible.
A few days ago, I posted a piece on the tragedy in Newtown. I expected that it would be met with mixed reactions. A gun toting, God fearing, Liberal’s opinion was bound not to play nice with either side of the political spectrum. I almost did not publish the piece, but, when I received the email, I knew that writing it was what needed to happen. Before you read his words, I want to say how grateful I am to be part of this NECESSARY conversation. Our opinions differ -in some regards. However, the significance is in the fact that both of us understand how critical it is to have this conversation. Read his full email here. For sake of keeping this as concise as possible, I’ll address his points in order that he brought them up.
Honestly, I do believe that the shooter was a victim as well, but, why I believe him to be victimized is drastically different. The shooter, as I did, grew up in the generation of diagnose first and address the cause later, which is why I’m particularly adverse to labeling him mentally ill. As those who know my father can attest, the amount of disclosure my explanation is going to require is going to be troublesome to him –sorry dad- but again, I think it necessary.
When I was a teenager, I had no friends, I still have very few. I have a high IQ, somewhere around 148. I can memorize more information than a human requires (my friends call me a walking encyclopedia), but, in general lack many of the nuances required to form social relationships. I knew lots of people; I connected with remarkably few. I was bullied mercilessly. I saw a psychologist and spent hours proving I was smarter than she was. She asked if I had contemplated suicide. I told her about my bulimia. She wanted to medicate me, label me clinically depressed and bi-polar. I was not depressed, and I did not want to die. I had a rifle I could have shot myself. What I wanted was to be visible. I wanted to MATTER!
By definition, many of my behaviors could have been categorized as mentally unstable. Thank God my parents never allowed that to happen because I wasn't. I was a kid smarter than I was mature, who did not know how to navigate the world. Fortunately for me, I learned. It took years. I’m still learning. I had the enormous fortune of a family that was willing to meet me where I was and help me get to where I was going. My family refused to let me be invisible. To this day, my mother still tells me every time she speaks to me how gifted she sees me as, did I mention I LOVE that woman.
I do not pretend that my experience of the world is everyone else’s. There are people who are mentally ill, and they should have the full resources they need to lead healthy productive lives. Given that the shooter was a person suffering from Asperger’s, a disease that makes it virtually impossible to deviate from established notions of right and wrong, the sheer moral repugnance of his actions requires that we recognize that he was not “crazy”. To accept his actions and all others like his as mental incapacity or illness, we’d have to say that these clearly premeditated methodically executed acts lacked the understanding of consequence of the action. If that were the case, then they would have been less likely to end in suicide.
A few days ago, I posted a piece on the tragedy in Newtown. I expected that it would be met with mixed reactions. A gun toting, God fearing, Liberal’s opinion was bound not to play nice with either side of the political spectrum. I almost did not publish the piece, but, when I received the email, I knew that writing it was what needed to happen. Before you read his words, I want to say how grateful I am to be part of this NECESSARY conversation. Our opinions differ -in some regards. However, the significance is in the fact that both of us understand how critical it is to have this conversation. Read his full email here. For sake of keeping this as concise as possible, I’ll address his points in order that he brought them up.
Honestly, I do believe that the shooter was a victim as well, but, why I believe him to be victimized is drastically different. The shooter, as I did, grew up in the generation of diagnose first and address the cause later, which is why I’m particularly adverse to labeling him mentally ill. As those who know my father can attest, the amount of disclosure my explanation is going to require is going to be troublesome to him –sorry dad- but again, I think it necessary.
When I was a teenager, I had no friends, I still have very few. I have a high IQ, somewhere around 148. I can memorize more information than a human requires (my friends call me a walking encyclopedia), but, in general lack many of the nuances required to form social relationships. I knew lots of people; I connected with remarkably few. I was bullied mercilessly. I saw a psychologist and spent hours proving I was smarter than she was. She asked if I had contemplated suicide. I told her about my bulimia. She wanted to medicate me, label me clinically depressed and bi-polar. I was not depressed, and I did not want to die. I had a rifle I could have shot myself. What I wanted was to be visible. I wanted to MATTER!
By definition, many of my behaviors could have been categorized as mentally unstable. Thank God my parents never allowed that to happen because I wasn't. I was a kid smarter than I was mature, who did not know how to navigate the world. Fortunately for me, I learned. It took years. I’m still learning. I had the enormous fortune of a family that was willing to meet me where I was and help me get to where I was going. My family refused to let me be invisible. To this day, my mother still tells me every time she speaks to me how gifted she sees me as, did I mention I LOVE that woman.
I do not pretend that my experience of the world is everyone else’s. There are people who are mentally ill, and they should have the full resources they need to lead healthy productive lives. Given that the shooter was a person suffering from Asperger’s, a disease that makes it virtually impossible to deviate from established notions of right and wrong, the sheer moral repugnance of his actions requires that we recognize that he was not “crazy”. To accept his actions and all others like his as mental incapacity or illness, we’d have to say that these clearly premeditated methodically executed acts lacked the understanding of consequence of the action. If that were the case, then they would have been less likely to end in suicide.
He was a person dealing with the overwhelming pain of a disconnected life who lacked the skills (socially and emotionally) to cope with it. The failure is in not creating a social structure where people still feel responsible for each other. There is more value in the village raising a child than one may think. When we involve the village, no child is invisible because every member of the community invests in the wellbeing of its other members. It is not a crazy notion. It is a large part of the reason why the remaining homogenous communities (Little Italy, Chinatown, etc) and the Base communities (religious) of the world are successful. There is a shared social responsibility that we no longer utilize as the foundation for our cultural organization.
He posed the following questions:
1. How do we ensure more responsible gun ownership?
2. How do we protect little children from monsters?
3. How do we analyze the risk posed by mentally unstable folk?
My answers may not be the quick fix everyone is looking for, but, I do believe it is the long view solution that may have a greater impact.
Responsible gun ownership…
I understand the public’s perception of high powered rifles. I also understand that most members of the public are not married to former soldiers and have a somewhat skewed view of the world of weaponry. Therefore, let me first address some popular misperceptions. Without specific licensure, there are no fully automatic weapons available to the public (legally). Even the military has banned the use of fully automatics as they are woefully ill equipped and costly in a combat situation. As such, we then get into the debate about the modified civilian versions of long rifles. The fact is that an AR-15has less “power” (potential to inflict damage) than a .30-06. Bolt action rifles and revolvers are still the most consistent, accurate purveyors of damage available on the market. Obtaining the kind of hardware (fully automatics) that most of this debate stems from requires a Federal Class 3 firearms license (mostly held by dealers)that takes a considerable amount to obtain. Bolt actions and revolvers do not and you can purchase a .50 revolver easier than AR-15. I have several friends who own “high powered” rifles. They are ex-military or law enforcement, men (and women) who are fully aware of their capability and have invested a considerable amount of time understanding the responsibility of owning them.
Therefore, I believe the first step in a solution should be enforcing the laws we have. As we discuss responsible ownership, we have to take into account the user. I believe there should be mandatory classes over weeks or months, not just online or a one day course. I believe that psychological aptitude should be part of the requirements. I believe that you should have to put a few hundred rounds down barrel. I believe that you should have to visit a morgue and hospital to see up close and personal what GSWs look like, what they actually do to the human body. There should be a ban on private owner resale. All guns, from my perspective, should have to travel through licensed, bonded, dealers who must maintain access to a federal database to ensure that an owner who cannot pass a background check cannot purchase a gun. I believe that anyone who sells a gun illegally should lose their sellers license and face possible jail time, and if that gun is used in the commission of a crime the dealer should be equally liable for the crime. 80% of guns used in crimes are purchased on the private market: end the private market and eliminate a considerable number of lose weaponry.
Protecting our children….
We have to create a society that VALUES children! We talk about children being our future, but we defund schools, we cut teachers’ salaries, we defund programs designed to provide safe alternatives for poor families. We provide little to no parenting support for at risk families. We make mental health services selective and not fully covered. We return children to harmful adults by the case load. We saturate our society with images that success and significance are financial and not the children we leave to this world. Banning guns is like banning French fries because people are obese. The issue is not access to guns; it is in the relationship we have with guns. It is the belief that violence is power. That fame (however it is derived) and celebrity are the panacea for our emotional ills. The fix is in redefining our society and what we value. I’ve attached a link to a simulated child abduction describing in vivid detail the gross incongruence between our words and actions. We have to address once and for all that we have allowed too many children to fall through the cracks. If Korea understands that those that influence our children are nation builders, then why exactly is it so hard for Americans to get it?
Metal instability…
As a nation, we spend frighteningly little on mental health. When compared to other industrialized nations, it is appalling how little we invest in our wellbeing. Between the stigma and the ostrich approach we have toward it, how dare we posture ourselves to be offended by the outcome. The human mind is not only incredibly fragile, but incredibly complex. A study done by one of the leading neuroscientists on the brains of serial killers drew the drastic and unnerving conclusion that there are predictable brain patterns of killers. What was even more disturbing was that they were identical to the scans of the scientist himself, to which he pointed to the nurture he received during his maturation that channeled those energies toward a productive life versus that which he scientifically knew he was capable. My point, end the invisible children, change our society.
Again, I’m not pretending that the solutions I have offered can change things over night. But, while we are searching for real answers, we have to address the issue from all angles. I fear that addressing it as the single issue of gun control will only lead to greater damage and less room to change. I agree that the message they are sending is clear. I simply believe that it is not hard to identify. We have hit bottom. It is time for an intervention. We can only change when the danger of remaining the same is greater than the fear of changing. I believe we are way past that point. Change has come; the question is what we will change into. Are we America the afraid or America the free? We the People of the United States of America, in order to form a more perfect Union… must decide what that America is going to be…
He posed the following questions:
1. How do we ensure more responsible gun ownership?
2. How do we protect little children from monsters?
3. How do we analyze the risk posed by mentally unstable folk?
My answers may not be the quick fix everyone is looking for, but, I do believe it is the long view solution that may have a greater impact.
Responsible gun ownership…
I understand the public’s perception of high powered rifles. I also understand that most members of the public are not married to former soldiers and have a somewhat skewed view of the world of weaponry. Therefore, let me first address some popular misperceptions. Without specific licensure, there are no fully automatic weapons available to the public (legally). Even the military has banned the use of fully automatics as they are woefully ill equipped and costly in a combat situation. As such, we then get into the debate about the modified civilian versions of long rifles. The fact is that an AR-15has less “power” (potential to inflict damage) than a .30-06. Bolt action rifles and revolvers are still the most consistent, accurate purveyors of damage available on the market. Obtaining the kind of hardware (fully automatics) that most of this debate stems from requires a Federal Class 3 firearms license (mostly held by dealers)that takes a considerable amount to obtain. Bolt actions and revolvers do not and you can purchase a .50 revolver easier than AR-15. I have several friends who own “high powered” rifles. They are ex-military or law enforcement, men (and women) who are fully aware of their capability and have invested a considerable amount of time understanding the responsibility of owning them.
Therefore, I believe the first step in a solution should be enforcing the laws we have. As we discuss responsible ownership, we have to take into account the user. I believe there should be mandatory classes over weeks or months, not just online or a one day course. I believe that psychological aptitude should be part of the requirements. I believe that you should have to put a few hundred rounds down barrel. I believe that you should have to visit a morgue and hospital to see up close and personal what GSWs look like, what they actually do to the human body. There should be a ban on private owner resale. All guns, from my perspective, should have to travel through licensed, bonded, dealers who must maintain access to a federal database to ensure that an owner who cannot pass a background check cannot purchase a gun. I believe that anyone who sells a gun illegally should lose their sellers license and face possible jail time, and if that gun is used in the commission of a crime the dealer should be equally liable for the crime. 80% of guns used in crimes are purchased on the private market: end the private market and eliminate a considerable number of lose weaponry.
Protecting our children….
We have to create a society that VALUES children! We talk about children being our future, but we defund schools, we cut teachers’ salaries, we defund programs designed to provide safe alternatives for poor families. We provide little to no parenting support for at risk families. We make mental health services selective and not fully covered. We return children to harmful adults by the case load. We saturate our society with images that success and significance are financial and not the children we leave to this world. Banning guns is like banning French fries because people are obese. The issue is not access to guns; it is in the relationship we have with guns. It is the belief that violence is power. That fame (however it is derived) and celebrity are the panacea for our emotional ills. The fix is in redefining our society and what we value. I’ve attached a link to a simulated child abduction describing in vivid detail the gross incongruence between our words and actions. We have to address once and for all that we have allowed too many children to fall through the cracks. If Korea understands that those that influence our children are nation builders, then why exactly is it so hard for Americans to get it?
Metal instability…
As a nation, we spend frighteningly little on mental health. When compared to other industrialized nations, it is appalling how little we invest in our wellbeing. Between the stigma and the ostrich approach we have toward it, how dare we posture ourselves to be offended by the outcome. The human mind is not only incredibly fragile, but incredibly complex. A study done by one of the leading neuroscientists on the brains of serial killers drew the drastic and unnerving conclusion that there are predictable brain patterns of killers. What was even more disturbing was that they were identical to the scans of the scientist himself, to which he pointed to the nurture he received during his maturation that channeled those energies toward a productive life versus that which he scientifically knew he was capable. My point, end the invisible children, change our society.
Again, I’m not pretending that the solutions I have offered can change things over night. But, while we are searching for real answers, we have to address the issue from all angles. I fear that addressing it as the single issue of gun control will only lead to greater damage and less room to change. I agree that the message they are sending is clear. I simply believe that it is not hard to identify. We have hit bottom. It is time for an intervention. We can only change when the danger of remaining the same is greater than the fear of changing. I believe we are way past that point. Change has come; the question is what we will change into. Are we America the afraid or America the free? We the People of the United States of America, in order to form a more perfect Union… must decide what that America is going to be…